Mary teaches the importance for each of us to daily let others know, in detail, what they “do” that supports us, and leaves us feeling cared for and valued. She points out that our failure to give this very important information often results in the listener not knowing his/her needs. Therefore, our needs are not met in a relationship, and we do not feel cared for. To feel cared for, you must let people around you know what the “do” that results in you feeling cared for.